Life before Berkley

My husband and I are high school sweethearts. I know it sounds stupid, but when I saw him in seventh grade I knew there was something special about him. I had the biggest crush on him for years. Then we began to hangout with friends together. A few months later he asked me out on March 5th, 2002. We fell so in love, so fast, and young. It wasn’t always easy to stay in a relationship when you are that young. It is worth it for sure.

After 7 years of dating we were married. It was a beautiful day followed by a storm during the evening. As of today we have been married for 6 years and 8 months. Staying married is not always easy but, living without each other wouldn’t be either. We have been through the “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health”.

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For Better, We have traveled many places together. We bought a beautiful house together. We had really fun jobs that we were paid to travel and enjoy what we were doing at the events we worked at. Many quite nights just spent together. Being able to laugh together over the stupidest things.

For Worse, Life is chaotic and full of stress that drains us. We are just two individuals with unique personalities that struggle to see eye to eye sometimes. We feel like the world has been crashing down around us for the last few years. With his mother being sick, his father getting hurt at work, Tony’s sister was struggling with an addiction,  and our niece moving across the country and now losing our daughter.

We were all at a breaking point a over a year ago. Tony’s mother kidneys final failed so she needed to have a kidney transplant. My brave, kindhearted husband stepped up to donate his kidney to his mom. The surgery took place 10.3.2014. They both recovered and she was like a new person. My sister in-law is doing amazing too! Not only did she complete treatment, she is very active in recovery, she continues to work the program, and manages a sober living house. A few more months and she will have two years clean! My niece is doing amazing and adjusted great. I am so happy and proud of her. I know she is such a strong and beautiful young women.

We felt things were finally turning around for the whole family. Right after Tony donated his kidney to his mother, something changed in us. We knew that no matter what, family is the most import thing in life. Money, traveling, and material things were not the most important things in life. We knew we wanted to have a child.

Four months after the surgery we found out on February, 28th that we were going to be parents. We were so excited and we saw a ray of light in the mess we had been getting through.IMG_4931